- A woman is currently finding it difficult to decide what to do after her boyfriend asks her to choose between their relationship and a foreign education
- She got a fully funded scholarship to pursue a masters degree abroad, but her boyfriend seems uncomfortable with the whole thing
- Pushed into a tough corner, the 22-year-old sought the advice of Rita Orji, the Nigerian professional who shared the story
A woman believed to be a Nigerian has been trapped in a tight corner by her boyfriend who is uncomfortable with her ambition to travel abroad to further her education. The lady got a fully funded scholarship to pursue her masters degree abroad.
But her boyfriend told her to die the idea or to choose between their relationship and acceptance.
Facing this dilemma, she shared her issue with LinkedIn influencer, Rita Orji, a well-known Nigerian professional residing in Canada. Sharing the story on LinkedIn, Professor Rita Orji wrote:
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“I woke up to an email from a lady who got a fully funded admission for a master’s degree abroad. Her boyfriend told her to choose between admission and he. She is asking for my advice. I don’t get involved in relationship issues but I think it is unfair to give her such a condition.”
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Her boyfriend promised to marry her
According to the story, the man in question also promised to marry the lady. However, the man may break up with her if she goes ahead with the travel. Professor Ruta Orji said she asked the lady to think about what was at stake. And the story continued:
“My only question was: What is the risk if you choose one option over another? Based on this and your priorities, you can decide what to do if he refuses to change his position. She said, a man might break up with her and promise to marry her.. People have different priorities.. She is 22 years old.” .
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After sharing the story on LinkedIn, it sparked a huge interest from people. Commenting on the story, Ifeyinwa Obianyo who has a Ph.D. advised people to pursue self-development over marriage to avoid becoming a liability to the family. She said:
“When I was in the midst of my PhD studies, I faced a similar choice. I chose to complete my PhD over my marriage without a second thought despite the fact that I have a 5-year-old daughter. My family including my husband is the #1 beneficiary of my PhD earnings. Therefore, I advise everyone Females in my networks go for self-development on marriage. “
Oluwatobi Bamidele said in his comment that the man was afraid of losing the lady as he was not sure she would return after her studies. he wrote:
“If she went, she might not come back. And even if she did return, the lady would have collected some shoulder pads. Whichever way, I think he’s afraid to lose it on the scholarship, so to speak.”
There are still good men in northern Nigeria, the woman praises her husband for supporting her education
My wife abandoned me because I came back from Libya blind
In a closely related story, recently reported Lawful A man told how his wife left him blind after returning from Libya.
Stanley Ogeriakhi traveled to Libya in search of a better life, but was blinded after the horrific experience he had in the North African country.
The young man suffers from glaucoma and this has made things and life in general very difficult for him.
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